People don’t expect to become disabled. Rarely does an individual wake up one morning with a goal of, “This month, I’m going to become disabled, be unable to work, and then rely on the kindness of others and the government for my living.” Statistics show that about 3% of children born in the United States have a major birth defect/disability. While that number may seem low to those not affected by having a disability, those living with a recently developed or new disability or caring for someone who is disabled will certainly disagree.
In this blog, we will discuss a few methods to manage an often-overlooked aspect of being disabled: the emotional/mental health side. Realizing that you are disabled, then positively accepting it and working through the emotional aspects of it, are all essential parts of not just living with a disability but living life well while being disabled.
YOU ARE ALLOWED TO GRIEVE.
It is only by grieving that you can process what is happening. You are allowed to feel (and should feel) a variety of emotions: anger, sadness, loss of hope, longing for your non-disabled life, and so many more emotions. (Learn about the grieving process and mental health here). Accepting, processing, and working through these emotions are vital steps in shaping your view of being disabled. Remember, this is a process and will not happen overnight. Be sure to have a friend or family member who can process this with you.
BE KIND TO YOURSELF.
Odds are you did not ask for or desire this to happen to you. Don’t accept the mentality of defeat. Yes, your activities may become more limited. The scope of your life and independence may change. Resolve not to accept defeat and not give up on your goals, aspirations, and things you enjoy doing. You may just need to modify your plan somewhat.
THERE WILL BE GOOD DAYS…AND BAD DAYS.
Some days may be harder than others: both physically, mentally, and emotionally. It’s normal to feel down, sad, frustrated, and downright angry about your situation. The main point is not wallowing in that state. It can take a lot of work and energy to figure out new ways to accomplish things, but you still have life to live. Be open-minded to discover new hobbies, new interests, and even new skills.
Be sure to recognize and accept that working through this will take time. You may need additional assistance to accomplish tasks, such as mobility equipment. Rather than being reluctant about these changes, remember that there is still much you can do, just in new ways.
At Parmele Disability Advocates, we recognize that emotionally managing the disability process and your mental health may be difficult, time-consuming, and confusing. Should you decide to apply for social security disability (SSD) or VA disability benefits, the legal team at Parmele Disability Advocates is here to help you—just like we have with over 61,000 people: with integrity, compassion, and experience. Contact us today to schedule your no-cost consultation: 866-889-2570. You can also visit us online for more information.
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